What defines her as 'paralyzed by grief'?
- she dwells constantly on the death and loss of her husband
- she cannot find interest in hobbies, people, or life in general
- she feels extreme loneliness.
After our session, she told me that having a mediumship reading has helped her immensely for the following reasons:
- she knows her husband's soul lives on
- she recognizes ways he is still with her
- she knows he loves her still and always
- she knows she will have spirit visitations from him
- she knows she will connect with her husband on the other side when it is her time to pass
- she feels comforted
- she is beginning to feel beginnings of hope again
Our time with spirit helped her to ease the pain of grief, but the efforts and opportunities and steps she takes today and into the future are going to make the difference in moving her beyond the grief and ending her grief paralysis.
To help her cope and to help her find a new balance in her life, I suggested the following ideas:
- counseling
- support groups
- prayer
- reconnecting with loved ones who are still living (family and friends)
- figuring out who she is without her husband
- taking up old hobbies
- pursuing new interests (perhaps taking classes)
- understanding her spirituality and her personal connection with the Divine
- focus on the next door of happiness
She admits to feeling a 'wall of grief' between her and other people. She has grown comfortable being alone. And while I do feel that cocooning after a death can be helpful for a while, eventually it is important to consciously seek out positive personal and socialization opportunities. Taking one day at a time, she will gain understanding of herself.
Bottomline: Perhaps for the first time you will understand what the Psalmist meant when he said: "Yea, though I WALK THROUGH the valley of the shadow of death." The important words are 'WALK THROUGH' You 'walk through'; you do not remain where you were.
Life continues. Never underestimate your ability to survive.
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My mother passed last week after a long struggle with cancer. Standing beside the bed, right before she moved on, a powerful sensation ran right through me from my feet to my head.
My wife says I shuddered and stepped back. She put a chair behind me and I just sat down, overwhelmed. I said, "That was Mom," and stood up. She was gone.
I have always believed in spirit, but to actually feel her passing through me was such an incredible validation! Her body was frail and weak, but her spirit was like a powerful electric current.
People tell me this does happen, but it is extremely rare. I feel so blessed and I will never forget it.
Bob
Sending love and light on your mother's transition, along with healing and peace to you and yours.
Sweet Blessings,
~Willa