Thursday, May 27, 2010

Doors of happiness

"When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us." ~ Helen Keller

Sometimes in life we dwell on unhappy events. We despair, we worry, and we keep ourselves tortured by thoughts of the past AND the future. We analyze, we evaluate, we go over the scenario, we pick it apart in the hopes of understanding. The remnants resemble pulverized dust, crumbles of thought.

In regard to past events, I feel this is our way of determining our levels of responsibility, guilt, victimhood, and understanding. Perhaps it becomes a wish to hit the rewind button. Or the way to have the fantasy of replaying the events in a better way. Or a way of "making sure it NEVER happens again".

In regard to future events, we bring our fears of future outcome, reliving past feelings of mis-takes, and dreading what we "expect" might or might not happen. Just like little children who have learned that the stove is HOT, we remember and fear being burned. When we do this, we are living from energetic memory stored in our bodies and minds.

Then you have the people had it soooo good at one phase in time, that they don't think they can be that happy ever again. They focus on that point as the pinnacle of their happiness and everything is downhill from there. For example (a simplistic one, but it works) when people say "the day we got married was the happiest day of my life"---well, that doesn't say much for the years of marriage that come after, does it?

As Spiritualists, we know that we create our own happiness or unhappiness as we obey or disobey the physical and spiritual laws of Nature (aka Spiritual Natural Law). Dwelling on fears or disappointments of the past or future engages the Law of Attraction, the Law of Thought, the Law of Creative Reality, etc. Simply put, we attract to us what we bring our attention to. I have seen this happen in my own life, time and time again. It's tried and true, folks.

Happiness begets more happiness. In this case, lightning (figuratively speaking) can strike more than once. [Interesting to note: Statistically speaking, a person who is struck by lightning (real lightning) is twice as likely to be struck again. But, back to the case at hand...] Life provides many opportunities for happiness.

Bottomline: Living from the point and place of NOW is difficult when when we dwell on closed doors. Don't be blind to the opportunities for happiness TODAY --- open your soul to the beautiful possibilities and NOW becomes easy.

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Paralyzed by Grief

Recently, I spoke with a client who is paralyzed by grief. Her husband died five years ago and she is in the throes of intense prolonged grief.

What defines her as 'paralyzed by grief'?
  • she dwells constantly on the death and loss of her husband
  • she cannot find interest in hobbies, people, or life in general
  • she feels extreme loneliness.

After our session, she told me that having a mediumship reading has helped her immensely for the following reasons:

  • she knows her husband's soul lives on
  • she recognizes ways he is still with her
  • she knows he loves her still and always
  • she knows she will have spirit visitations from him
  • she knows she will connect with her husband on the other side when it is her time to pass
  • she feels comforted
  • she is beginning to feel beginnings of hope again

Our time with spirit helped her to ease the pain of grief, but the efforts and opportunities and steps she takes today and into the future are going to make the difference in moving her beyond the grief and ending her grief paralysis.

To help her cope and to help her find a new balance in her life, I suggested the following ideas:

  • counseling
  • support groups
  • prayer
  • reconnecting with loved ones who are still living (family and friends)
  • figuring out who she is without her husband
  • taking up old hobbies
  • pursuing new interests (perhaps taking classes)
  • understanding her spirituality and her personal connection with the Divine
  • focus on the next door of happiness

She admits to feeling a 'wall of grief' between her and other people. She has grown comfortable being alone. And while I do feel that cocooning after a death can be helpful for a while, eventually it is important to consciously seek out positive personal and socialization opportunities. Taking one day at a time, she will gain understanding of herself.

Bottomline: Perhaps for the first time you will understand what the Psalmist meant when he said: "Yea, though I WALK THROUGH the valley of the shadow of death." The important words are 'WALK THROUGH' You 'walk through'; you do not remain where you were.

Life continues. Never underestimate your ability to survive.

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

View from tree top

I have a long-standing love affair with nature. I love looking at the sky and trees and water. I find that my walks in nature provide me with fresh air and a greater sense of at-one-ment with the world.

While on a walk recently, I looked at the trees - really looked. I noticed the beautiful spring leaves looking fresh and green against brown and grays of tree bark. Old trees with thick strong trunks towered over flexible saplings. And my eyes traveling upward to the treetops of the old forest- some 100 feet above me.

My attention became focused on the tippy-top part of the trees. Splendid green leaves swayed in the spring breezes against the blue sky. Glorious! As they danced in the sun, I felt like my soul danced with them.

Clear and free in the air, the top of the tree is the first to feel the sun, feel the rain, feel the snows, and see the birds skimming the air currents above. My awareness was perched at the highest part of the trees and I could touch the sun and experience the higher reaches too. Surveying the landscape via remote viewing with my soul and communicating with the trees on this vertical level was awe-some.

This beautiful tree-top experience helps me to realize that I've gotten into the habit of looking at the houses and trees and animals within 20 feet from the ground. It was wonderful to be reminded and feel the divine connection in this exulted way. Let us lift our thoughts, perspectives, and souls upward.

And now I find myself humming lines from some of my favorite Spiritualist church hymns:

"Upward ever upward, let our thoughts arise, May we know God's power than caused earth and skies." -- from Onward and Upward

"Highest heights in truth's domain, I shall reach and thus obtain
Every longing of my heart, for no blessing can depart;
All of health and good are mine, since like God, I am divine." -- from Destiny at My Command

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Too much time with technology gadgets?

So you think you spend too much time with technology ---- hmmm, you may be right.

In the past century, we have come a long way in communications. We have welcomed televisions, computers, and cell phones into almost every home in America. These technologies have virtually taken over our lives and almost every room of homes.

For some, this represents progress and ways of staying connected with our friends and family around the world. For others, these technologies represent a disturbing replacement of face-to-face communication. For still others, technology is a bad word synonomous with robot takeovers and mindless human zombies with eyes glued to the lit-up screen.

Well, I thought I would share a few of my thoughts regarding technology's effects on mediumship/spiritual development with you.

I have used all of those implements I listed above (television, cell phone, & computer). In fact, I am using one right now to communicate with you via this blog. Technology can assist me in certain arenas and has a place in my life (at this time).

However, technology has its limits (of course).

When you are developing mediumship, you are involved in attunement with Nature, God, and Spirit. None of those are technology-based.

Certain spiritual websites, blogs, and media programs can assist you on your soul journey. Afterall, words of wisdom and spiritual examples are helpful. However, none of these can replace right practice, right intention, and the importance of attunement in mediumship development.

Some other things to consider with high-level technology use:

  • Do you obsessively check your voicemails/emails/texts? Set a reasonable time limit on your technology use. Spend time with the people you are in the physical presence of.

  • Do you fill every minute to the extent that you can't sit quietly when you find yourself with some downtime? Focus on communication with your soul. Become comfortable with spending time with your own thoughts. Perhaps a daily meditation routine would help you cope with stress, find spiritual solutions, and experience comfort.

  • Are you sitting up almost every night in front of the television watching reality shows and/or crime dramas? Vegging out like this with mindless antics and/or fear-producing images is not helpful. For attunement to the Highest and Best, I have found that quiet time with family, reading, journaling, and other methods of unwinding produce healthy sleep and a healthy mindset.

  • Speaking of sleep ... Are you sleeping well at night? Getting good and deep sleep is important. Some of the best spirit visitations happen during deep natural sleep. When you are well-rested, you have clarity of mind (needed for good strong mediumship). What is your proximity to electronic devices? The electric and magnetic frequencies of alarm clocks, TV or computer monitors, and cell phones all have a physiological effect on you. Is it dark in your sleeping area? Darkness is vastly important for your body cycle and circadian rhythm.

In my own life, I have noticed the vast difference between my days of high-technology use and my days of little to no technology use. When I have set aside and/or used technology in moderation, I grow my relationships in accordance with Spiritual Natural Law and attune myself to awareness of God.

Bottomline: Strive for moderation in all things, especially (in this case) technology. I strongly encourage you to evaluate this for yourself. We LEARN from interaction with other souls. We need prayerful solitude to CONNECT with the quiet voice within. We THRIVE when we have a good balance.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Setting boundaries for spirit contact

Q: Hi, Willa. Thank you very much for the reading recently. It was very comforting. I'm enjoying the blog and have a question that I think is of general interest. I wonder whether mediums, such as you, are bombarded by your sixth sense receptors when you go about the day-to-day business of life--passing people on the sidewalk, or in the grocery store, or at the drycleaners, etc. Also, if you watch those stirring documentaries on television that make us all cry, do your psychic senses become involved or can you disconnect from emotionally charged situations? I guess I'm asking how a medium protects herself when she wants to turn the answer machine off for a while or maybe: So, how is life on this plane for a medium? Do you ever get any peace and quiet?

A: Yes, I cry while watching movies and I find it especially difficult to watch the news or other kinds of drama trauma. I have learned to set limits on tv watching and exposure to that kind of thing. And while I sometimes strongly empathize with people I pass on the sidewalk, I have learned to keep my aura and intention strong.

Early on in my mediumship development, I learned that I had to set boundaries for spirit communication and intuitive information. In order to not be bombarded by the energies of other people (spirit or those here on earth plane), I had to set healthy limits. Therefore, I informed my spirit guides and helpers that I would be open to receive spirit communication for clients at the following times:
  • during mediumship readings
  • during public messagework (ie. church services or Lily Dale message services)
  • during development circles and workshops
Notice that these occasions for spirit communication are for clients and students who have arranged time with me for that purpose. Ethical mediumship is very important. And I feel strongly about not crossing other people's boundaries by going up to strangers in the grocery store or other places to inflict impressions on them.

And just like any other job or profession out there, a medium needs to take breaks and needs down-time from working. Spending time with family, friends, and in peaceful solitude (without work interruptions) is important for a balanced life. In fact, my family and friends are good at helping me to remember that I am human --- a spiritual being experiencing a human existence.

Self-awareness and commitment to personal growth are essential in the study and practice of mediumship so early on in my development, in addition to the occasions I mentioned above, I also told spirit that I would be open to receive spirit communication and intuitive information for myself at the following times:
  • during meditation
  • during dreamtime
  • during times of great personal or family need
To maintain a good balance in my life, I have found it is extremely important to set these boundaries and keep them. I have noticed another benefit --- when I do have spirit contact it occurs in very concentrated form with good direct communication. I encourage you to set your own healthy boundaries with your spirit loved ones and the other people in your life.

Sunday, May 9, 2010

A Newborn's Conversation With God

I am sharing this with you all in honor of Mother's Day. I received this lovely story from a friend. The author is unknown. I give thanks for the 'angel' who nurtured me and showed me how to be a mother. Many blessings ~W

A baby asked God, "They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?"

God said, "Your angel will be waiting for you and will take care of you." The child further inquired, "But tell me, here in heaven I don't have to do anything but sing and smile to be happy."

God said, "Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you. And you will feel your angel's love and be very happy."

Again the small child asked, "And how am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me if I don't know the language?" God said, "Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak."

"And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?" God said, "Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray."

"Who will protect me?" God said, "Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life."

"But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore." God said, "Your angel will always talk to you about Me and will teach you the way to come back to Me, even though I will always be next to you."

At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from Earth could be heard and the child hurriedly asked, "God, if I am to leave now, please tell me my angel's name." God said, "You will simply call her, Mom."

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

The 3 main constants in a mediumship reading

Mediumship is a interesting process, especially because we have little to no control on the outcome of each session. Each reading is unique and has it's own special personal earmarkings. No mediumship reading is alike and you will not experience it in the same way even twice.

Mediums are as almost as varied as their readings. Each medium has their own unique personality and style of working. But there are some constants in mediumship that you should be aware of.

SPIRIT CONTACT: True mediumship establishes communication with those in Spirit --- family and friends who have passed. See what is a medium blogpost here.

VALIDATION : True mediumship seeks validation from the spirits that come through and share their essence and opinions. You, as the client, have a very special job during a reading (ie. confirmation). This shows proof of spirit contact.

CONTINUITY OF LIFE: True mediumship uplifts, comforts, and shows that there is no 'death' and there are no 'dead' because we and our loved ones live on. Mediumship frequently proves the continuity of life.

These are the three main constants that are usually present in a mediumship reading or message.