Friday, May 29, 2009

Timeframe for spirit contact

Q: My mom just died unexpectedly last week. Is it too soon for me to try to make contact with her through you? I vaguely remember someone telling me that they're not "available" right after they pass? Is there a general timeframe? Please let me know. Thank you.

A: There is no official wait time before establishing communication with a spirit loved one.

I have noticed some spirits are ready to communicate immediately and other spirits take longer.

Some mediums suggest a six month time period. I feel this is a good timeframe for many clients because by then they have processed some of their grief and are not in a desperate space. There is a difference between being ready and being needy. It just depends on the client and the spirit. Trust your own soul regarding this.

When you are ready, you just know.

What a blessing it is that you know you will connect with your mother's spirit in divine right timing and that love never dies.

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Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Lessons from a Child: My baby can read

The following is a humorous sharing of recent events.

My baby can read. He’s 7 ½ months old and he can read. Or at the very least he is trying to read. Why do I imagine this? He keeps pulling books off my bookshelf.

After I replace them in the hopes of preventing damage to my book collection, he crawls over there and yanks them off again. The same books. Consistently.

His favorites are located in various spots within his baby arm range on the two bottom shelves. It doesn't seem to matter if I put them back in their usual places or scatter them randomly in a vain attempt to confuse his baby brain.

He is making special effort to pick particular books. And they represent a definite change of pace from his baby book collection.

Out of all the books on the shelving unit, he chooses the following: Angels A to Z, Communicating with Spirits, and Spiritual Healing.

He gazes at the covers intently, tries to chew on them [learning by ingestion?], flips them over to read the back cover, and then opens up to a [random?] page.

Eventually, as his baby fingers start to pull a little too enthusiastically at the fragile pages, I intervene. His dismay is profound. I have interrupted his solitary spiritual reading time.

Due to his obvious interest in the subject matter, I have now resolved to occasionally read a page or two of my books with him. Hopefully, this compromise will keep my books from further peril until we finish babyproofing the house.

Saturday, May 23, 2009

A life in a nutshell

Sometimes it's a challenge to get information and impressions from a person in spirit because I'm having to get to know them in a few minutes. And I'm trying to gain the spirit's trust and information at the same time.

So I ask the spirit to tell me about themselves with some basic questions:
  • what did you die from?
  • what did you look like?
  • what is your relationship to my client?
  • what was your personality?
  • what is a good way they will recognize you?
  • is there something you like to do?
  • something you want to say about your life, the client's life?

They may answer a few of them. Occasionally, all of them. Essentially, I am trying to encapsulate their life in a nutshell. Not an easy task for some.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Practicing the Presence of God, Part 3

The following blogpost is excerpted from my Sunday morning lecture at the Church of the Living Spirit on 5-17-09. See Part 1 & Part 2.

Part Three: Practicing

Robert Browning wrote in his poem “Paracelsus” :

Truth is within ourselves; it takes no rise
From outward things, whate’er you may believe.
There is an inmost centre in us all,
Where truth abides in fullness . . . and, to know,
Rather consists in opening out a way
Whence the imprisoned splendour may escape,
Than in effecting entry for a light
Supposed to be without.

After much contemplation over the question --- Do we need to pretend to lose God in order to find God? ---- I believe we are practicing the Presence of God.

When we interact with other souls, we are practicing the Presence of God. After struggle, each moment we give ourselves over to unconditional love we know the Presence of God in full and wonderful ways. When we fall in love and stay loving, we feel an amazing unbreakable link with another soul. When we become a parent, we feel that we have become co-creators with the Universe.

We are all vibrationally linked---your light and my light unite. Reunion with another person’s higher self feels so sweet because it is a reunion with the Source of All.

Most days, I now know it is not a task, but an exciting experience to practice the Presence of God. As my soul reaches out its awareness of God, it feels so much how my baby son searches for his Mommy, “God, where are you? I need you. I am part of you and you are part of me. Come back into my sight and hold my soul to yours.”

That is why I find our church’s meditation time so wonderful. To take us into meditation we use the words:


This is a powerful affirmation of the Presence of God. Then, we are given an opportunity to go into the silence.

So …. Talk to God and LET GOD TALK TO YOU! When you are through with your praying, take time to be still --- really very still --- and let God talk to you. Sometimes we are in such a hurry that we do not give the answer a chance to come through!

Believe me, as a new mom, I know about being in a hurry and not having time to be still. So remember that even in the flowing river of your thoughts and days, you can still feel the Presence of God. As The Science of Mind philosopher Ernest Holmes once said, “The whole of God is present at any time and every point within God.”

The healing, the peace and comfort await your practicing the Presence of God. As you open your inmost chambers of your Soul with prayer, you will be restored, revived, and enlightened every time.

If you are using a stale prayer, form a new one. Stale prayers and stale thinking aren’t any good for you. Get hold of something vitalizing, energizing, and powerful.

You can say:

Enjoy your conversation with God. Bless you All.

Monday, May 18, 2009

Practicing the Presence of God, Part 2

The following blogpost is excerpted from my Sunday morning lecture at the Church of the Living Spirit on 5-17-09. See Part 1 here.

Part 2: Science is catching up with spirituality

As Spiritualists, we believe that we are all connected to God, to the Divine, to Infinite Intelligence, the Source, a Unified Field of Energy. Albert Einstein believed in a unified field of energy: that everything, everyone, all matter, and all energy are united, are all one field.

Einstein - a deeply religious man - believed this as a matter of faith but could not prove it mathematically. Well, perhaps science is catching up with spirituality.

There is a well-respected neurologist in San Diego, Vilayanur S. Ramachandram, who has discovered how the human brain experiences both the human sense of unity and the sense of being separate from God. By using a PET scan, he has noticed changes in the temporal lobes of individuals who experience religious vision. The temporal lobe, when interacting with the limbic system, is the brain center for unity.

What Einstein tried to do with the whole universe (discover the source of unity) neuroscientists like Ramachandran are doing with the brain by discovering the neural source of the feeling of unity.

Ramachandran has discovered that the human brain actually senses itself to be utterly connected, attached, and one with God, but does not feel that consciously at all moments, and so it posits that it is intrinsically disconnected from the universe. In response to the sense of disconnection, the human mind creates religions, which provide the mind with a way to feel connection more constantly. Though most religions reflect the sense of disconnection by positing that humans are disconnected from God, they also reflect the goal of connection, by providing connection as a reward of a religious life.

Another way to put this: We must experience disconnection or separation from God in order to feel connection.

And even more exciting --- there is now technology to see what happens in the brain when it is understanding the inner self,” “reaching a state of spiritual or religious union,” and “experiencing the timeless.”

The neurophysiologist Andrew Newberg has found this to be true. He and his colleague have done experiments with a man who is devout Buddhist and accomplished practitioner of Tibetan meditation. These scientists hook this man up to SPECT cameras and when this man enters the transcendent peak of meditation they take what they term ‘a photograph of God’.

Before meditating, the parietal lobe is filled with normal electrical activity. During meditation, it is dark and sensory links for orienting to physical space disconnect. So one could say that the meditator is lost in the world and blind to it, but can see God. As meditators we leave the physical world behind and find ourselves. These scientists have done these SPECT scans on people of many religions during meditation and have found the same pattern.

Sooooo (carried over from yesterday's post about Practicing the Presence of God, Part 1) my question to you is: Do we need to lose God in order to find God? Like some strange game of pretend. Hide and Go seek? Does it help us grow as individual souls?

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Practicing the Presence of God, Part 1

The following blogpost is excerpted from my Sunday lecture at the Church of the Living Spirit this morning.

Part One: Losing Sight of God

As many of you know, I am a new mother and I’m learning as much as I can about the experience. I am learning about Love and Thought and the Divine.

My little boy has started to crawl so he is not as much of a lap baby now. He sits up nicely and can play for a little while by himself. And occasionally, he looks up from playing and giggling to find me smiling up at him and other times I’m across the room.

When he doesn’t see me right away, he starts looking around frantically. Where is my Mommy? (Mommy in this scenario means: person who birthed me who I expect to carry me constantly with the strength of ten camels, feed me on cue, comfort me immediately, and love me unconditionally.)

He has temporarily lost sight of me and he knows this is not good, not okay, not natural. And he cries out and allow me to translate for you “Mommy where are you? I need you. I am part of you and you are part of me. Come back into my sight and hold my soul to yours.”

I know this is a passing phase in babyhood as he learns more about his independence and his abilities, but this new soul in my life got me thinking about how sometimes as adults we lose sight of God and sometimes we lose sight of our soul, our path.

Maybe losing sight of God is an important step in the journey to rediscovering that which was always there.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Developing Symbols with Spirit

Many times during readings pieces of evidential information are given to me in a symbolic short hand.

Let's say for example . . . the client's father is here. I see the symbol for father. Next, I may feel the sensation of tightening around my heart and pain down my arm, so then I know the father died from a heart attack. Then, I see the number three (numbers are symbols) and say "I see the number three and I assume your father passed three years ago from a heart attack." "Yes," the client replies.

I continue, "He worked with his hands and he is showing me the symbol for farm. Now, I'm seeing big farm machinery and tractors. He also smells strongly of grease and dirt and sweat." "Yes! that's him," she says. "That's my dad."

I keep asking the father in spirit for more information, more identifiers. "He shows me a green pickup truck. He's showing me the symbol of ownership and then points to you. You must have his truck now." Client confirms this. "Now, he's making me feel like I'm sitting in the truck --- I guess you like to sit in the vehicle because you can feel his spirit very strongly in there sometimes." The client confirms this excitely. And so on and so forth.

The above is a scenario of how symbols can help convey information quickly, but every session is different. Different people, different experiences, different personalities. Thank goodness I have some common symbols to refer to, right?

By playing this game of charades (pantomime, gestures, and symbols) a full impression is formed. Usually, the spirit shows me the appropriate symbols for career, relationship, family, healing, etc accompanied by feelings and impressions.

So now . . . think of some symbols that spirit could show you.

Monday, May 11, 2009

The Essence of Spirit

As a medium, my specialty is spirit contact. In fact, the main reason clients book a reading with me is for communication with their loved ones in Spirit.

With that purpose in mind, I focus on bringing the essence of a spirit loved one through (ie. physical characteristics, personality traits, messages). This may include a few of the following things:
  • what they were like when they were here (personality traits)

  • how they interacted with people, especially the client

  • what physical conditions they had before they passed

  • how they passed

  • what they looked like (physical appearance)

  • what it was like to be them and 'walk in their shoes'

  • some of the things they thought or did

  • what they think about the client's people and situations (their opinion/message)
Sometimes the confirmation of identity happens immediately - there is something the spirit does or says that lets the client know without a doubt that this is their Aunt Margaret or their father. Sometimes the clues are subtle, and the spirit's identity remains uncertain until the client has time to think about the messages.

Clients often happily report that the spirit(s) and info they wanted to link with came through "right off the bat".

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Lessons from a Child: I am a Mother

It is with special regard I now contemplate my first Mother's Day as a mother.

When my husband and I decided to have a baby, it was with conscious thought and spiritual intention. We knew we would be creating and bringing into life our Love.

With that intention [and affirmation], we conceived our son within a few days of our agreement to create Life. Then, he was born and I became a mother in a fuller sense of the word.

I protect and nurture, cuddle and hold, nourish and nurse. I get to be the person who calms his cries, sees his joyful smile in the morning, and gets hugged regularly by his little arms. His face is like a cup full of wonder and his body and soul seem to be constantly stretching to bring more of the world to him. I am a Mother.

And as a newly appointed member of the "mommy club", I thought I would research Mother's Day. Turns out, our modern day observance is mostly based on a daughter honoring her mother who died [something that as a Medium I understand].

Here is an account of the origins and subsequent history of our modern Mother's Day:

My own mother has been [and still is] my best teacher. Her amazing love and support is a comfort in all times. I honor her, her intuitive and compassionate ways, and creative soul.

Special blessings to the Mothers this day!

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Positive Affirmations 4

. . . continued from Positive Affirmations 3 . . .

Writing a Positive Affirmation

Now that you have decided what you truly desire, it’s time to write your affirmation. This is a statement of YOUR truth.

Affirmations are always phrased in the first person and usually in a present tense ("I am") rather than a future tense ("I will") in order to increase the realization of the statement for the affirmee.

It is also important to not limit your affirmation too much. For example, "I am making more room in my life for success every day" is a much wiser affirmation choice than "I will win the lottery today!"

And you can take a negative (-) thought statement and turn it into a positive (+)thought statement. Here are some examples:

- My life is a mess.

+ I am willing to release the pattern in me that created these conditions.

- I should lose weight.

+I have a happy, slender body.

- Nobody loves me.

+ I am in the process of positive changes.

- I want to move.

+ I have the perfect living space.

- I hate my job.

+ I now create a wonderful new job.

- I should get organized.

+ I am now very well organized.

- I don’t do enough ____.

+ I appreciate all that I do. I love and approve of myself.

- I’m not good enough.

+ I trust the process of life to bring me my highest good. I deserve the best & I accept it now.

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Positive Affirmations 3

...continued from Positive Affirmations 2 ...

Important Questions before creating a Positive Affirmation

It is important to know at all times that we are here for one fundamental purpose - as channels of experience of Source and thereby to evolve and therefore to Spiritually grow through experience. Anything not consistent with that most Divine mission will not arouse the necessary passion.

So if you desire something that you do not already have, ask yourself these questions:

1. Why do I wish to have this thing or situation?
2. What will it really, genuinely add to my experience and growth?
3. Am I really, sincerely passionate about wanting it?

These are absolutely fundamental questions that must be answered before setting out to consciously make use of The Law of Attraction.

Plain and simple - if you are not passionate about something then you will not be able to easily achieve vibrational harmony with it, and you should think again about why you desire it in the first place. Genuine needs should be separated from vague wishes and desires generated out of materialism, greed or the pressures of relations, friends and society.

That said, it is quite possible to become passionate about an object of desire that you were not previously passionate about, thereby invoking the necessary vibration, but the motive must still be honorable, and above all it should be of benefit to others.

...continued in Positive Affirmations 4

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

The Law of Attraction

Many people want to use The Law of Attraction to attract whatever they desire in life - which of course is very understandable. However, when I ask these people what they actually do desire in life they very often do not know. This alone is enough to prevent them from attracting very much.

Before we can attract anything we must be passionate about wanting whatever it is we desire. It is not enough to vaguely "want a better lifestyle" for example.

One of the fundamental aspects of success with The Law of Attraction is to vibrate in harmony with the object of desire in order to enable it to manifest into the vibration of the physical world where it can be experienced. Simply "wanting more money" or "wanting a better lifestyle" is, in and of itself, not enough to invoke the necessary level or nature of vibration required for it to manifest into experiential reality.

It is a powerful fact that many people who have succeeded greatly with The Law of Attraction were at an absolute low point in their lives, often without money and frequently without even a home. These people so passionately desired a new home, money, food etc. that when their lives could not reach a lower level, they turned within with passion, very often praying to God in the right way, imagining in vivid detail having the things they most wanted. In almost every case their wishes came to fruition.

I should mention once again that there is a vast difference between prayer projected under these circumstances, and a prayer uttered as a vague and hopeful request. Not only that, having successfully used The Law of Attraction, and therefore knew it worked from experience, this gave these people the Belief in the process with the Faith that it will always work for them, and the absolute Gratitude for what they have received.

Monday, May 4, 2009

Positive Affirmations 2

Continued from Positive Affirmations 1 . . .

In spirituality and personal development, an affirmation is a statement of a desirable intention or condition that is deliberately meditated on and/or repeated in order to implant it in the mind. You may also use affirmations in conjunction with a visualization of a desired outcome.

Perhaps the most often used and well-known affirmation is the word "Amen," which can be translated simply as "so be it" or "and so it is," affirming the truth of whatever was written or said immediately prior. While often used to conclude prayer, the word itself is neutral as to its context and exemplifies a logical affirmation more than a spiritual one.

Here is an example of the process of affirmations from the Bible:
"Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them." -- Mark 11:24

Basically, in order to manifest what you desire, you use your imagination as a creative force. Through your thoughts and statements of intention, you create your world. This is the Spiritual Natural Law of Creative Reality.

Continued in Positive Affirmations 3 . . .

Friday, May 1, 2009

Positive Affirmations 1

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." ~Mohandas Gandhi

Positive affirmations and positive thinking techniques can help develop a powerful and positive attitude to life --- an essential element in life success and good health. With this power you can turn failure around into success and take success and drive it to a whole new level.

Essentially, your positive attitude is the fuel for your success. And your positive affirmations and actions dictate outcomes in your life.

In this blogpost, we will be exploring how to use affirmations effectively.

What is an affirmation? An affirmation (from Latin affirmare, to assert) is the declaration that something is true.

Affirmations are a very powerful means of reprogramming the unconscious mind. They appear to be most effective when repeated in a quiet and restful state of mind and body, and when the desired outcome is vividly experienced in one's mind and resulting emotions are felt.

And whatever we send out mentally or verbally will come back to us in like form.

Our minds create our future. And your thoughts are creating your universe because if you believe it, it seems true. So ask yourself what your belief is because “when there is a problem, this is not something to do, there is something to know”.

continued in Positive Affirmations 2 . . .