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Intense prolonged grief

In my profession, I see a lot of grieving people. Not everyone is in a state of intense grief, but many clients are dealing with the loss of a spouse, parent, child, sibling, pet, and/or friend.

Mourning for loved ones is a normal process, but occasionally I meet clients that are in a state of intense prolonged grief. For instance, with one client, it had been two years since her husband died and she was barely leaving the house. She was:

  • feeling emotionally numb
  • feeling that life was meaningless
  • bitter/angry over the loss
  • experiencing difficulty moving on with life
  • feeling that a part of her had died too

She was in deep and paralyzing grief. She was severely depressed and she kept saying "I want to be with him."

During our session, she was so grateful to be connecting with him. For the first time in over two years, she was hopeful and excited. Many of her questions and concerns were answered and addressed. She felt uplifted by the experience. In fact, she said that even though part of her still wanted to be with him, now she could see living out the rest of her days happily on the Earth plane. The comforting knowledge that he was okay, that he loved her still, and that she would see him on the other side helped her immensely.

I feel that mediumship assists in helping people cope with the death of loved ones in a healthy way. As I frequently explain to clients, I feel that grief is not something to get over --- it is something to move beyond. Many times spirit contact is the necessary catalyst for intensely grieving people to move forward in their lives.

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Nina said…
Your words ring so true here. It is hard to get beyond grief when we get stuck in the dark emotions. Even fond memories sometimes don't bring people out of their grief. I know that a spiritual connection helps. Knowing that the loved one is in a place of comfort and content allows the grief to loosen its hold some. You help people to "move beyond the grief" and come to a place of comfort again. By sharing your gift, you are truly a healer of the spirit. Many Blessings to you and yours. Love and Light, Nina P
December 8, 2009 at 10:33 PM
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