Saturday, August 29, 2009

Q & A: Will our session be a conversation with spirit loved ones?

Q: What happens during a mediumship reading? Will it be a conversation between me and my spirit loved ones?

A: Each reading is unique, so I never know what to expect during a reading. As a medium, I open myself with the highest and best intention to receive information from your spirit loved ones.

Once we establish contact with a spirit loved one and have established their identity, we can engage them in conversation and ask them questions.

Many times, a reading is an opportunity to chat with your family and extended family and maybe a few of your closest friends. It can be a special time for reunion and a sharing of memories. It can be a chance to say "hello" or "I'll see you again" or "I love you". Perhaps it will be a time for making amends and apologies. Or it can be an opportunity for closure and explanation. Or it can a time to receive guidance and opinions from those you trust in Spirit. Or it can be a confirmation of your own experiences with spirit contact and listening to your own soul.

Sometimes you know the people who gather very well, sometimes you are getting to know them or getting to know them better.

Depending on the personality dynamics of the members of your family and others, you could have quite a discussion. Conversation may be stilted or it may launch into a debate or it may flow beautifully.

Usually one of the spirits becomes what I call the Primary Spirit Communicator. This spirit loved one will be in charge of the discussion, or may help/allow other spirits to communicate, or may be the only spirit communicator.

Ultimately, my focus is to bring through the essence of a spirit loved one and their messages. My goal is to help my clients connect with their loved ones in spirit for healing and for evidential spirit contact.

I truly enjoy my work as a medium and every day I give thanks for my connection with Spirit.


If you have a general question whose answer would benefit many people, you may submit a question any time and watch for the answer in this Blog. Email me at

I am unable to answer emails that involve requests for feedback or personal advice about a situation. If you would like guidance in your spiritual or intuitive development, please book a consultation with me, and if you need to connect with a loved one in Spirit, please book a reading.

Monday, August 24, 2009

Lessons from a Child: Balance can be virtually effortless

My baby son is fast approaching the stage of walking. He has mastered the Speed of Crawl and now he has learned to hang onto furniture and people in order to keep his balance while walking. With this assisted form of walking, he can travel with amazing agility from the couch to the chair, from the kitchen cabinets to the refrigerator, and from the wall to the door.

And I have something exciting to share with you (proud parent moment) . . . I have witnessed him standing on the strength of his own two baby legs without holding onto anything or anyone!

I'm sure many of you may be thinking . . . so what? After all, babies go through this developmental stage as a precursor to walking unassisted. *yawn*

What I find so fascinating about this particular moment is the following:

Because he is focused on the toy, his balance is virtually effortless. Like a little yogi at peace in the Tree yoga pose, he is completely in the 'now moment'. His balance lasts for half a minute or more while he concentrates on the toy before he reachs out to rebalance.

And he doesn't seem to notice that he was standing without aid from anyone or anything as a prop.

[Here comes the lightbulb moment . . .]

It has made me aware of something about my own life. It sometimes takes me a while to realize that I am standing on my own without assistance from others. My independence sneaks up on me!

For my baby son, all it takes is a toy block. What objects, emotions, and/or events does it take for you and me to achieve this?

Perhaps like all those in training to become a Master of Distraction, we need a focal point (or distraction) to achieve balance, independence, and success. Wonderful things can happen when we are not analyzing --- children grow, the sun rises and sets, and we live our dreams. When we know this and flow with this, balance is virtually effortless.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Primary Spirit Communicator

During a reading, usually one of the spirits becomes what I call the Primary Spirit Communicator. This spirit loved one will be in charge of the discussion, or may help/allow other spirits to communicate, or may be the only spirit communicator.

I say "only spirit communicator" because sometimes one spirit gets on their soapbox and hogs the reading. People roll their eyes or listen gratefully or interject their comments.

Usually the Primary Spirit Communicator is a family member (but can sometimes be a close friend). I have noticed that they may possess one or more of the following attributes:

  • strong desire to connect
  • spiritual awareness
  • a forceful personality
  • a guiding influence
  • great love for my client

Sunday, August 16, 2009

Baby 'Mirror Neurons'

I just read a fascinating article about how babies' brains work titled Babies' brains 'reach' for toys. This is an occasion when science supports what we already know intuitively and spiritually: we are all connected.

Here's the gist of the article . . .

Scientists measured the brain activity of 9-month-old babies. The same area of a baby's brain lights up whether the baby reaches for a toy or watchs an adult reach for a toy. The same space. This ability is due to mirror neurons, which fire when we do an action ourselves and when we watch others do a similar action.

Let me say that another way. When babies watch people reach for objects, the motor region in their brains gets activated, as if the babies were doing the reaching themselves!

[But wait! It gets better.]

Scientists also noticed that once babies got used to observing an adult grab the toy, their brain activity occurred prior to the action. I hope you realize why I am excited about this, but allow me to continue with more info directly from the article:

"The fact that the brain activity in babies is 'predictive' — it occurs when the baby can predict that someone will reach for an object — suggests that babies (and probably adults too) use their own motor system in order to figure out how someone else's action will unfold," Southgate told LiveScience. "That is, by accessing your own motor plan for how you would, for example, achieve the goal of picking up an object, you can make a good prediction about how someone else would also do that." That information would help you to respond to the other person's action, say, to intercept their movements and take the object yourself, Southgate added.

The scientists used the word "predict" and state that babies use their motor system to figure out how someone will react. Being strongly clairsentient myself, I believe this makes sense. After all, during spirit contact my motor skills are engaged, so I often 'feel' the essence of the spirit and what it was like to be them physically and emotionally. Their reactions and impressions translate temporarily within my body.

One of the things I am absorbing from this research article is that as human beings we are hardwired to be intuitive and predict events in a clairsentient way using our brain and body responses. Could this be one of the reasons we are able to do healing and mediumship work?

Friday, August 14, 2009

Lessons from a Child: Telephone Game

I attended a birthday party recently. The event was for a friend turning 34, but with all of the children in attendance you would have thought it was a party for a little girl.

The celebration was a huge success. Children and adults fought goodnaturedly over paper plates depicting Disney princesses such as Snow White, Cinderella, Aurora, Ariel, Jasmine, and Belle. After much consideration, I ended up with my own princess plate with a generous portion of funfetti cake.

With girlie squeals and pink heart pendants containing grape flavored lip gloss, the little girls were having a blast getting the adults to play the Telephone Game.

Do you remember that game?
The Telephone Game is also known in various parts of the world as broken telephone, whisper down the lane, gossip, silent mail, and telephone without wires.

You lean over to your neighbor and whisper a phrase such as "My purple shirt has pizza on it."

Your neighbor leans over to their neighbor and passes the phrase on. The whisper chain continues around the table until it reaches you again. The last person calls out aloud the message they have received.

And after it has passed through ten people, the phrase ends up being something like "A purple monster ate the dishwasher." The original phrase has been distorted either intentionally or by mistake until it is virtually unrecognizable.

It's a wonderful lesson in listening and understanding that the truth can sometimes to be lost in the retelling. If you don't pass it on exactly as stated, the fish gets bigger, the adventure more daring, the terror more compelling, and the message more garbled. Most telephone gamers understand this and giggle in wonderful abandon while others seriously intone the phrase and carefully pass it along word for word.

This game got me thinking about spirit messages.

During spirit communication, we receive a message or information from a spirit loved one and pass it onto a client. This is basically a much smaller version of the Telephone Game.

It is essential that we carefully and correctly pass the message on. We all have different filters (attitude, life experience, levels of fear vs joy, etc) and we need to be aware of how those filters positively and negatively effect the content of a message. I encourage you to keep this in mind in your own spirit communications.

Apply spirit communication with right intention and practice. Be truthful. Listen to and feel messages carefully and pass them on with correct tone and words or else you could end up "eating a purple pizza". *smile* [do pizzas come in grape flavor?]

Monday, August 10, 2009

Spirit loved ones & the future

Q: Can my spirit loved ones tell you what will happen in my future?

A: Because I am a medium, the focus of a session is always on spirit contact --- connecting with a client's loved ones who have passed. A mediumship session is not for fortune telling or future telling.

That said, spirit loved ones occasionally share their opinions about people and situations around a client. After all, they care about us and love does not die.

Sometimes they will offer what they view as the highest probability of outcome --- the highest probability of how a person will react or how a situation will resolve. This is based on past patterns and the energy at this moment in time.

Ultimately, we each have free will to manifest our own future, so nothing is ever 100% certain.

Occasionally, those in Spirit can be quite verbal about what they feel is the right thing. But, remember all your dad, mom, brother, grandmother, etc can offer you is an OPINION.

You are in charge of your life and your decisions. So listen to your own soul.


If you have a general question whose answer would benefit many people, you may submit a question any time and watch for the answer in this Blog. Email me at

I am unable to answer emails that involve requests for feedback or personal advice about a situation. If you would like guidance in your spiritual or intuitive development, please book a consultation with me, and if you need to connect with a loved one in Spirit, please book a reading.

Friday, August 7, 2009


Here's a funny tid-bit for you . . . this happened during a reading recently.

After I had brought thru spirit loved ones and they were talking about the people and situations around the client, I sensed and tasted olives. [More fun with clairgustance. Yay!]

So I told my client of the impression and asked her, "Who is the olive fanatic?"

My client looked at me quizzically for a minute, then said slowly, "I have a very good friend who loves olives." I said, "She LOVES olives and spirit is teasing about how she has to have olives. The olive bar is one of her favorite places."

Then my client suddenly exclaimed, "YES! We even went on an Olive Tasting Tour together recently! And I had forgotten about this, she just got a dog and she named the dog Olive!"

"Well, now you know what to get her for a gift," I joked. "Olives!" she laughed back.

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

States of Mental Consciousness

Speaking of vibrational frequency . . .

Electrical activity emanating from the brain is displayed in the form of brainwaves. These brainwave states range from deep dreamless sleep to high mental action. The same four brainwave states are common to the human species. Men, women and children of all ages experience the same characteristic brainwaves. They are consistent across cultures and country boundaries.

There are four categories of these brainwaves, ranging from the most activity to the least activity. You will probably recognize yourself in some of the examples below and how they relate to spiritual awareness. The accepted states of mental consciousness are as follows:

Beta: Alert/Working --- When the brain is aroused and actively engaged in mental activities, it generates beta waves. Beta waves are characteristics of a strongly engaged mind. A person in active conversation would be in beta. A debater would be in high beta. A person making a speech, or a teacher, or a talk show host would all be in beta when they are engaged in their work.

Alpha: Relaxed/Reflecting --- A person who has completed a task and sits down to rest is often in an alpha state. Taking time out to reflect or meditate usually produces alpha waves. When you take a break from a conference and walk in the garden, you would most likely be in an alpha state.

Theta: Drowsy/Daydreaming --- A person who has taken time off from a task and begins to daydream is often in a theta brainwave state. For instance, if you are driving on a highway and discover that you can't recall the last five miles, this is probably theta state--induced by the process of long-distance driving. The repetitious nature of that form of driving compared to a country road would differentiate a theta state and a beta state in order to perform the driving task safely.

Individuals who do a lot of long-distance driving often get good ideas during those periods when they are in theta. People who run outdoors often are in the state of mental relaxation that is slower than alpha and when in theta, they are prone to a flow of ideas. This can also occur in the shower or tub or even while shaving or brushing your hair. It is a state where tasks become so automatic that you can mentally disengage from them. The ideas and thoughts that take place during the theta state are freeflowing and occur without censorship or guilt. This is typically a very positive mental state.

Delta: Sleep/Dreaming --- The final brainwave state is delta. Here the brainwaves are of the greatest amplitude and slowest frequency. Deep dreamless sleep takes you down to the lowest frequency (but never all the way down to zero because that would mean that you were brain dead.

It is a well known fact that humans dream in cycles. When the delta brainwave frequencies increase into the frequency of theta brainwaves, active dreaming takes place and often becomes more experiential to the person. Typically, when this occurs there is rapid eye movement, which is characteristic of active dreaming. This is called REM, and is a well known phenomenon.

Moving through the States of Consciousness

Basically, the four brainwave states of mental consciousness range from the high amplitude, low frequency delta to the low amplitude, high frequency beta.

Research has shown that although one brainwave state may predominate at any given time, depending on the activity level of the individual, the remaining three brain states are present in the mix of brainwaves at all times. In other words, while somebody is an aroused state and exhibiting a beta brainwave pattern, there also exists in that person's brain a component of the other brainwaves.

I believe this is another way spirit contact is facilitated.

When we go to bed and read for a few minutes before attempting sleep, we are likely to be in low beta. When we put the book down, turn off the lights and close our eyes, our brainwaves will descend from beta, to alpha, to theta and finally, when we fall asleep, to delta.

When an individual awakes from a deep sleep in preparation for getting up, their brainwave frequencies will increase through the different specific stages of brainwave activity. That is, they will increase from delta to theta and then to alpha and finally (when the alarm goes off) into beta. If that individual hits the snooze alarm button they will drop in frequency to a non-aroused state, or even into theta, or sometimes fall back to sleep in delta.

During this awakening cycle it is possible for individuals to stay in the theta state for an extended period of say, five to 15 minutes--which would allow them to have a free flow of ideas about yesterday's events or to contemplate the activities of the forthcoming day. This time can be an extremely productive and can be a period of very meaningful and creative mental activity. This is also a GREAT TIME for SPIRIT CONTACT.

Long-time meditators seem to be able to produce a similar experience to the awakening cycle. From my own experience, I would say that it is a weaving together of the various states of consciousness and our mind-body-spirit syncing with the vibrational frequency of those in Spirit that facilitates spirit contact. This can then be verified bythe scientific instruments that measure and quantify brainwaves.

I hope that by recognizing the states of consciousness we can understand our opportunities to connect with Divine consciousness, our spirit loved ones, and our own souls.