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Death Vigil versus Sudden Death

Q:  Is it easier on those still here (on the earth plane) if a person passed suddenly or if a person passed after a long illness?

A:  My answer is: It depends on the person grieving.

So often, clients who have lost someone suddenly to a car accident or a heart attack will say, "I didn't get to say 'goodbye'." They are falling apart because they feel they didn't get closure. And they want their loved one back.

Just as frequently, clients who have lost someone after a long illness will say, "I got to say 'goodbye', but it was painful waiting and watching them fade away in front of my eyes." Many say that they are angry because they couldn't make the illness stop. And they want their loved ones back alive and healthy. Sometimes, they are missing the habit of the death vigil because they became accustomed to that life.

Not everyone fits this criteria, of course, but the above question is still interesting and seems to only have a subjective answer.

And of course, this leads us to another question: What level of understanding/faith/experience does the grieving person have about the afterlife? 

If the grieving person understands/knows/feels that they will connect with their loved ones in spirit again and that love never dies, then grief is experienced differently.  The death event is looked upon as a step on the loved one's spiritual journey and accepted more as the cycle of life.  This is one of the gifts of Spiritualism.

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