A: I shall share some of my understanding regarding those in Spirit who have committed suicide.
Everyone at sometime in their life experiences anxiety, pain, loss, and sadness. That’s normal for human beings. Life can be bitter-sweet, but the darkness that can lead to suicide is much deeper. It is a profound dark night of the soul --- an all-encompassing hopelessness.
Many of the suiciders I have connected with explain their circumstances (ranging from chemical imbalances to hypersensitivity to depression to drastic life changes and so on) with depression being the more common reason. They think they will escape their problems by ending their life, but they are wrong.
As I explained in my Where are they blogpost, every soul has to learn from, grow from, and overcome their issues. In fact, suiciders have just put yet another issue to be resolved in their own path. And more often than not, they have left behind a world of hurt for their family and friends who are stunned, shocked, grieving intensely, confused, and/or angry.
Usually those who choose suicide have turned their back on faith in the Divine, their faith in themselves or others, and/or their faith in their path as a learning path of evolution. This is a dark emotional and spiritual state of consciousness to be in. Whatever state of consciousness we have here on the earth plane, we take that same state of consciousness with us to the next plane. And we learn and grow from that place. So if a person was full of depression, anger, or fear and they choose to commit suicide they will NOT escape their spiritual lessons.
Thus far, most of the suiciders I have connected with have expressed regret for the extreme action of ending their own life, and state they are working diligently on their spiritual understanding of events and emotions leading up to the drastic decision. In the next plane, they are working toward Divine consciousness.
Now, let's take this discussion into the realm of numbers. I'm sure many of you are familiar with the statitistics on suicide --- that ONE MILLION people commit suicide each year. That's more than those killed by murder or war. In fact, according to the World Health Organization, suicide is a leading cause of death worldwide.* Here is some more info to consider . . .
- It is estimated that each suicide in the United States leaves an average of six people intimately affected by the death, either as a spouse, parent, significant other, sibling, or child of the deceased person. These people are referred to as survivors.**
Some of these "survivors" are my clients. Many times, they are grieving deeply and feel an immense guilt. These survivors are doing the best they can to understand their loved one's actions.
- It is estimated that 80% of all in home suicide scenes are cleaned up by a close friend, significant other, or a family member. Those that clean up a suicide scene of a close friend, significant other, or a family member are 75% more likely to commit suicide later on in life.***
Case in point: One of my clients lost his mother to illness at a young age and at the tender age of 13 his brother was the one to discover his father's body hanging in the living room. Their father had committed suicide. Three years ago, his brother attempted a suicide of his own. This heartache lives with my client everyday. At times he has contemplated a suicide of his own. And EVERY DAY, he consciously works to remember his Divine connection and to live joyously with his wife and children.
Death is inevitable, but of all deaths suicide is the most difficult to comprehend. All of us should try to understand it -- and prevent it. Whenever we can, we should help guide our loved ones and ourselves out of that deep darkness which leads far too many to end their lives.
After considering the above info, I hope you better understand the consequences of suicide for you and your loved ones. Not just the numbers, but the spiritual components of progression.
If you feel you or a loved one need IMMEDIATE help with suicide or suicide prevention, please call: 1-800-273-8255. This is a loving, caring, professional helpline with information, referrals and crisis intervention.
It is understandable if some of us are feeling overwhelmed during this transitional time. The winds of change blow through our life, sometimes gently, sometimes like a hurricane. As you know, hard times are not all there is to life, but they are part of life, growth, and moving forward. What we do with hard times, or hard energy, is our choice. We can use it to fine-tune our skills and our spirituality.
Remember: A new energy is coming. A new feeling is on its way. Each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal.
Footnotes for info:
* From article "WHO: Suicide Leading Cause of Death Worldwide" by Lisa Schlein 9/10/09
** From Suicide.org, numbers from 2001
***From "When a Suicide Happens" on the International Suicide Prevention website
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