Q: How can you tell if it's a young child's imagination or if they are actually seeing the spirit of a loved one? How do you encourage them to speak about it?
A: Many children seem to go through phases where they report seeing or sensing spirit people. And my clients frequently report that their children have seen spirit loved ones.
In fact, a client recently stated, "My son who is four years old told me that my father often visits him. He describes him accurately and calls him 'Grandpa' and has conversations with him. My father died five years before my son was born. I like knowing that my Dad is looking out for my son."
Typically after a child has perceived the spirit of a loved one, they may describe the spirit's physical appearance or call them by name. When paging through the family album, they may point to a picture of your grandmother and say, "That's the woman who visits me." These are identifiers of proof of spirit contact.
Also, the child may share information that they could not have known. They might say, "Grandma told me that such-and-such happened when you were eight." And you will recall the event.
When dealing with a child who is perceiving spirit, it is important to be natural about it. Here's a list of DOs and DO NOTs:
Consult with a medium or spiritual counselor who you trust. In a session, many of your concerns and questions may be answered. This will allow you (as the parent, grandparent, or guardian) to better know YOUR role in the child's development.
A: Many children seem to go through phases where they report seeing or sensing spirit people. And my clients frequently report that their children have seen spirit loved ones.
In fact, a client recently stated, "My son who is four years old told me that my father often visits him. He describes him accurately and calls him 'Grandpa' and has conversations with him. My father died five years before my son was born. I like knowing that my Dad is looking out for my son."
Typically after a child has perceived the spirit of a loved one, they may describe the spirit's physical appearance or call them by name. When paging through the family album, they may point to a picture of your grandmother and say, "That's the woman who visits me." These are identifiers of proof of spirit contact.
Also, the child may share information that they could not have known. They might say, "Grandma told me that such-and-such happened when you were eight." And you will recall the event.
When dealing with a child who is perceiving spirit, it is important to be natural about it. Here's a list of DOs and DO NOTs:
- Do not interrogate the child. You may have questions, but ask them gently. The child may not know the answer or be able to express it.
- Do not act afraid or fearful or overly excited about the child's mediumship abilities.
- Be patient. Allow them to share in their own time and their own way.
- Keep your child's trust.
- Do not tell your friends and family that "Johnny talks to dead people".
- Do not make them perform on command. Do not make them into a show pony. Allow the child to be a child.
- Do not page through the family album pointing at every picture and asking your child "Is this the person who visits you?" to the point the child becomes bored or frustrated.
- Know that every child develops at a different rate. And a child's level of ability and spirit communication may go through phases. For example, they may report visits from Grandma when they are age three and then nothing until age 11 and and then nothing until age 32.
- Let go of your expectations and allow your child's abilities to unfold in Divine Right Timing and Divine Right Order.
Consult with a medium or spiritual counselor who you trust. In a session, many of your concerns and questions may be answered. This will allow you (as the parent, grandparent, or guardian) to better know YOUR role in the child's development.
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